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Adam (2009)

People met and parted in many different ways. Some more memorable than others, while some were more painful. Adam (the name of the movie) told us a story about the meetings and partings of Adam, a 29 year old with Asperger’s Syndrome, and his new neighbor, Beth.

This was, of course, not your normal love story, given that the main character is someone with a mental problem. But throughout the movie, we were given a very important lesson that ‘normal’ is a strange thing for a ‘strange’ person. Just like the other way around. And that lesson brought us to a better appreciation of life, of love, and of other human beings.

The movie started with the burial of Adam’s father, the only person that was able to support him so far (including doing his laundry and buying his food). Afterwards, life wasn’t on good terms with Adam. Subsequently, he lost his job and trapped thick in managing the estate that his father had left. In between those situations, Beth came to his life. From a total stranger, they became neighbors, and then friends, and then close friends, and then lovers. And later it was Beth that brought Adam back on the game. Or so she thought, because when she looked at it again carefully, the line between her helping him and him helping her became very thin.

Beth lived an almost perfect life with a rich father and an even richer ex-boyfriend. But later in the movie we found out that maintaining a perfect looking life cost more than most of us can afford, and we’re not talking about money here. And so, in her quest to pursue her dreams, She met Adam and fell in love with him. Not because of sympathy and also not because of her own heartbreak, but because sometimes a completely strange stranger is the only one that sees and reaches beyond our barricades. And that’s what Beth experienced.

In the end, we were taken to witness how one lie, petty and unintended, and how one word, simple but unspoken, could change the whole course of someone’s life. This might not be your normal love story. This might also not be your favorite one. But you would agree that this is definitely one story worth pondering.

Ending? Good ending. Not necessarily happy, but definitely not sad. If I said anything more, it would be a spoiler.

Just as an extra piece of information, this movie won the Sundance Film Festival for the Drama category.

I watch, I talk. Feel free to watch and talk by yourself.

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Posted by on April 19, 2011 in Movie Talks



The Why Me Attitude

This morning, a friend sent me a very inspiring story of a man named Arthur Ashe, the first African-American male to win a Grand Slam event (click on the word if you happened to be one of those sport-blind-nerds and had never heard of a Grand Slam event before). Anyway, the story was worth reading and sharing, so I thought that the blog needed a little update. Especially after I made a promise that I was going to update this blog more frequently (3 months ago).

Arthur Ashe, born on July 10, 1943, was a seven time Grand Slam finalist with three champion titles and four runner-ups. Many critics and sport commentators named him as one of the greatest tennis player of all times. But tennis wasn’t his only fight in this world. He was also known for his role as a civil rights leader, especially on Apartheid issues.

Around 1983, when he was undergoing his second heart surgery, he apparently contracted HIV during the blood transfusion. This illness later led him to his deathbed.

Now, the story got interesting when one of his fans wrote him a letter asking something like, “why did God have to select you for such a bad disease?” His idol was the great tennis player, the respected activist, the pride of America, the inspiration for the Afro-American youth. It was unthinkable for anyone that he should receive such treatment from God. If anything, he should be rewarded for his deeds rather than be punished with HIV. Remember, in the early nineties, AIDS was far more scary than it is today because of the lack of information for common folks and people with AIDS received far worse treatment from the society as compared to today.

So the man, in his fifties at the moment, answered,
“listen, 50 million children around the world start playing tennis,
5 million learn to play tennis,
500,000 learn professional tennis,
50,000 come to the circuit,
5,000 reach the Grand Slam,
50 reach Wimbledon,
8 reach the quarterfinals,
4 to the semifinals,
2 to the finals.
When I was holding the cup, I never asked God, ‘why me?’
So why now in pain should I be asking Him, ‘why me?'”

This kind of faith reminded me of the faith of Job. As we all know, Job had a very bad day at the moment his wife came to him (probably remembering how devoted Job was to his God but yet this kind of misfortune fell upon him) and said, “do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!” Just like Ashe’s fan. And there, we witnessed Job answered, “shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?”

God is good all the time. May this story be a blessing for us all.

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Posted by on April 19, 2011 in It's A Short Life


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